Everyone Needs And Wants To Be Loved

Matthew 7:12, “Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” 1st John 3:10-14, “In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not his brother. For this is the message that ye heard from the beginning, that we should love one another. Not as Cain, who was of that wicked one, and slew his brother. And wherefore slew he him? Because his own works were evil, and his brother's righteous. Marvel not, my brethren, if the world hate you. We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love the brethren. He that loveth not his brother abideth in death.” 1st John 2:5, “But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.”

People just want to be loved, just love the hell out of them. I heard Pastor John K. Jenkins Sr. say that, and I never forgot it, because it is so true! Sadly, most churches today are ran like social clubs. If you are not part of their accepted clique, you are not welcomed. In fact, many churches will ostracize you! I have visited churches where I felt like they couldn't have cared less if I came back or not. That is a very bad testimony for any church to have. People ought to be made to feel loved. I have heard unreasonable pastors place the burden upon visitors, telling them that they should go talk to the pastors and church members. That is ridiculous! Why would a stranger take the initiative to act like they are church members before being invited to join?

I remember when I visited the Bayview Baptist Church on Guam in 2009. Mike Albin was the senior pastor then, who has since relocated to Washington in the United States. I was going through a difficult time in my life and recovering from a divorce. I sat and cried in church, emotionally hurting. No one approached me in church to ask me to join. No one cared if I was there. I couldn't believe what Mike Albin said, after I had attended the church for 3 months. He said from the pulpit: “Some of you are like big teenagers—you want us to come up and talk to you, but you need to come over and talk to us!” 

Respectfully, Pastor Albin not only has a degree from the Dallas Theological Seminary, but also has an earned degree in Psychology. Go figure! You'd think that a guy with all that training would have enough courage and wisdom to know how to deal with people. For the 3 months I attended the Bayview Baptist Church, with my life afflicted like the Poseidon ship upside down, their pastors couldn't have cared less at Bayview. I was there and in need of their help and love. They were cowards! They were afraid to reach out to me. So I left and never went back again, feeling unwanted, and that is on them. No one wants to be where they are not wanted! Kindly, it doesn't require a degree in psychology to figure that out. 

I am not saying these things in bitterness. I forgive them! Pastor Albin taught me some helpful things in his preaching. I'll never forget one particular sermon. He showed a photo of an island man with a cart loaded ten feet high. The wheel broke and the cart wasn't going anywhere! Pastor Albin said the picture illustrated many people's lives. He said that many people center their life around their spouse, but then their spouse is gone one day. Then they center their life around their children, but then their children grow up and are gone one day. Then they have nothing left! What we should all do is center our life around Jesus Christ, Who will never leave nor forsake us. I cried as I listened to Pastor Albin. Tears ran down my cheeks. I had made the very mistake he mentioned. My wife and children were all gone, and I had no one in 2009. I bought two small barbecues and charcoal to commit suicide. It is only by God's grace, because of my FAITH in Jesus Christ, that I didn't kill myself. 

My point is that there are millions of people who feel just like me. When they visit a church, they feel intimidated and unsure of what to expect. The hardest thing in the world is to attend a new church for the first time. It is very difficult for someone to walk into an unfamiliar building, in the midst of a big group of strangers, unsure of how they worship and believe, wondering if they will accept you. I didn't feel like I belonged at Bayview. My spiritual compass was broken and I needed some guidance. I needed their love and help, but didn't know how to go about it. They use the Devil's modern Bibles at Bayview. They have no soulwinning ministries. I like music, so I didn't mind the electric guitars and drums. I loved that actually. I wish I had been strong enough to take the initiative, but I was too weak. I hope someone reading this will remember what I am sharing with you. If you attend a church, look for new visitors and reach out to them. Tell them: “We are glad you are here! We hope you will come back again. Everybody is loved and welcome!” People are dying to be loved and wanted!!!

I have been ostracized by Harvest Baptist Church on Guam since 2014, because I am a Fundamentalist Christian, and they are apostate Neo-evangelicals. Even though I sincerely and kindly offered to set aside our doctrinal differences, just so I could have a church family—they have vehemently rejected me, shunned me, ignored me, been unfriendly toward me, and ostracized me as their enemy. Like the Apostle Paul, I have been wrongly persecuted for telling THE TRUTH. Galatians 4:16, “Am I therefore become your enemy, because I tell you the truth?” The churches of Galatia counted Paul as their enemy, because he exposed their Lordship Salvation as being a false gospel (Galatians 1:6-9; 3:1-3).

I am intrigued with the following Bible verse. 1st John 2:5, “But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.” The Bible is teaching us how to how to become loving toward God and people—by keeping God's Word. If we obey the Bible, God's love will be perfected (matured) in us. That explains why there is a woeful lack of love in most churches today, because they are using the Devil's counterfeit Bibles! These modern Bibles are very corrupt. Human beings have a horrible tendency to defend error, even if it means dying for their wrong cause! Of course, they think they are right.

I remember an incident at the bank many years ago, while my father (1933-2010) was still alive. My father was a pastor (of a rescue mission in Chicago) and regularly needed to go to the bank to deposit donations. I was with my father one day when he went to deposit money into the mission bank account. The young Caucasian man (bank teller) helping my father, falsely accused my father of not giving him $2,000, but my father insisted that he just did. The bank teller called over his Caucasian female supervisor. For the next 10 minutes that ungodly woman argued with my father, insisting that her employee could not have made an error. She threatened to call security to have my father removed from the bank. She exclaimed: “Sir, our employees are highly trained, required to follow a very specific procedure so that mistakes like you allege cannot happen. You didn't give him the $2,000 Sir! You need to leave or I will call security to remove you!”

Then in the heat of the argument, the bank teller's face turned red, and he hung his head, saying: “I see where I made an error!” That wicked fool for a supervisor turned her head hard to the right, looking at her employee in disgust. I wish to God. I wish to God, that I could have fired that wicked and unreasonable supervisor right there on the spot! In fact, I would have sentenced her to time in prison to teach her a lesson about falsely accusing others! That idiotic woman typifies sinful human nature—when we are willing to have somebody manhandled by police to prove our ignorance, error and foolishness!!! You know I am right. There are some very wicked and unreasonable people in this world, and many of them are religious people!!! There's not a more wicked and unreasonable group today than Bob Jones University and their alumni, who promote the Devil's Bibles and preach another Gospel of Lordship Salvation! You cannot reason with them.

I have learned that professed Christians who don't care about the purity of God's Word, and don't care about the accuracy of the Gospel, and don't care about right doctrine—those same indifferent religious tares don't genuinely care about people either! Everyone needs and wants to be loved. If the churches aren't loving hurting and needy people, then who is going to do it?

“Look if you just learn to love people, can't that make you a little sensitive? You can't take a person who hates somebody and then teach them sensitivity training. It just don't work that way. You see when you care about people and you love people, and you want the best for people, that makes you more sensitive; but when you don't care about people, all the sensitive training in the world ain't going to help.” —Pastor Ralph 'Yankee' Arnold, —“The Power Of The Holy Spirit”